The Wedding Planner
(A snapshot of a Wedding of Yesteryear)
Weddings of Yesteryear - The Bride and the Groom would have been married at the local family church and the photos would normally be taken at the church and the Bridal party were made up of close family with aunts and uncles, and the guests were made up of friends and family from the village or town where the couple lived.
The reception would have been held in the parents own backyard, were a long banquet style table would be covered in a lovely tablecloth, and laden with food brought by family members to help celebrate the happy occasion . . . .
Fast forward eighty years - Todays Weddings have changed vastly. . . .
. . . . Todays engaged couples have likely met on the internet or met at work. They often come into the marriage with different backgrounds - different ethnicities or religious backgrounds, preferences, friends, hometowns and expectations of what this magical moment will be. Their guests will travel from across the country to attend this special occasion. Instead of a table full of food that the guests have brought with them, we have the choice of venues, and the 'must have' list of photography, chocolate fountains, videography, wedding cakes, florists, table decoration, themed weddings, vehicles, wedding breakfast . . . . and the list goes on and on.
Today's Wedding is an extraordinary experience, quite different from the weddings of yesteryear!
Enter the Wedding planner - AKA Orchestral Conductor; Fairy Godmother; Mary Poppins; Peacemaker; Emotional Therapist . . . A Wedding Planner is called in to source all the elements that an engaged couple dream about, using the resources and talents that he or she has developed, and taking each project to a new level to create an experience unique to each couple.
A professional wedding planner is a lot like a matchmaker, only instead of finding people his/her perfect mate, they help match couples with wedding vendors that match their vision, personality and budget. Without a wedding planner, most couples base their decisions about vendors with online searches or recommendations from friends. While those tools are valuable, most wedding planners have an extensive network of vendors with whom they have worked closely, and whose work they can vouch for, so they can both set you up with great quality vendors as well as steer you away from vendors that wouldn’t be a great fit.
Your venue’s “wedding planner” isn’t really your wedding planner - Nowadays, many wedding venues have a “wedding planner” on staff, typically the couple’s main point of contact with the venue. While these planners are valuable (and I truly mean that. Site coordinators help make my job easier, for sure), don’t expect them to take care of all your wedding needs. Their job is to ultimately represent the interests the venue, not the couple.
Bottom line: Even though your venue may have a “wedding planner,” chances are that person is not a substitute for a professional wedding planner.
Planning a wedding is a lot of work. Some experts even estimate that the time a couple spends planning their wedding amounts to about 15-20 hours per week (basically a part time job) throughout their engagement. Not every couple has the time/energy for that after jobs, hobbies and social lives. A professional wedding planner can take a large chunk of the planning time off of your plate.
The role of the Wedding Planner goes beyond contracting with the vendors and lining up the Wedding Party before they march down the aisle. A Wedding Planner serves as a confidant, a sounding board and a guide, giving advice and encouragement at times, and honesty with a reality check when necessary.
You should be 100% present for your wedding day.
Your wedding day happens once, and it can never be repeated. So, why not invest in someone who can free you from every responsibility other than drinking in every moment of that day? You’ve likely invested a great amount of time, energy and resources in your wedding, so you should get to enjoy it.